HOW TO DEAL WITH SELF DOUBT FOR CREATIVES AND BLOGGERS
For many of us self-doubt is something we all have to deal with once in a while. It doesn’t matter if you’re a creative, a freelancer, a teacher, a start-up entrepreneur, a musician or a blogger, self-doubt is something we will all get to experience. For some, it’s worse than others. For me, it really kicked in when I started this blog because I had no idea what I was doing and I had no idea where it would take me. All I knew was that I loved being able to share my adventures and hopefully, inspire people to do something different on their travels. The thing is, on the surface you guys must think travel blogging is so easy. And I can’t fault you for this because all you see and read about are the amazing places I get to explore. But working and travelling on my own is tough. Much tougher than I thought it would be. I’ve had to hustle hard, very hard hard. And I’ve also spent many moments (too many to count) wondering if I am good enough. Even worse, I’ve had other bloggers copy my logo, steal my ‘about’ section for verbatim, ignore me at events even though I’ve met them several times, chase the same collaborations, ask me for contacts but not ask how I am, and copy my ideas for blog posts. I’ve even been bullied online!
But you know what? I keep persevering. I keep hustling. I keep trying. But you need to know that not everything I’ve done is a success, or easy – I’ve had more failed pitches than actual collaborations, and there are more blog posts sitting in drafts than I’d like to admit! But it’s so important to not give a fuck and let self-doubt derail you from what you want to accomplish. Especially when we know self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will! So read on to find out my tips on how to deal with self-doubt.
DON’T SLIP INTO COMPARISON MODE When I look at what other bloggers are doing and wonder why I’m not doing those things too, this is when self-doubt rears its ugly head. The problem is, slipping into comparison mode is easy – it’s like a drug and much harder to stop or walk away from. And we always end up feeling worse not better. So to help you out I am going to give you a fresh perspective - think of the time you spend comparing yourself to others. Are you spending 10, 15, 30 minutes, or longer? Now think of what you could have accomplished in that time if you were working on your own blog, music, art and doing something you love. And there you have it, the moment you start feeling like you’re slipping into comparison mode, you need to Stop, Refocus and Concentrate on what you’re doing because it's what you love doing and when you do what you love, the magic happens.
TAKE A BREAK When I start to feel overwhelmed and uninspired, this is when self-doubt slips in. I get distracted, I start searching online to see what other people are doing and before I know I’ve wasted 15 minutes of critical time I could have spent working on my blog and coming up with fresh, new ideas to conquer the world. When this starts to happen I know it’s time for me to take a break. I’ll usually get out of my studio and head down to the beach for a walk. Or I’ll grab a juice from my favourite café down the road. Or I’ll go for a swim in the ocean.
READ OR LISTEN TO A PODCAST When I am suffering from self-doubt there are two things I can always do to reinspire, refresh and reinvigorate how I am feeling. The first is to read a magazine called The Collective. Now whilst I am at it, this is not a sponsored post. I genuinely love The Collective. For those of you who don’t know it, then click here and you will be taken to a melting pot of entrepreneurial start-up advice, interviews and information. The second is to listen to the Being Boss podcast. I have been talking about this podcast for as long as I can remember and it’s the very reason why I started my creative agency last year.
HIRE A DESK AT A CO-WORKING SPACE As I work on my own, I don’t have a lot of interaction with likeminded people throughout the day. It’s probably the one thing I really miss about working in an office. And unfortunately, being alone all day often allows self-doubt to creep in. Lucky for me, there are a couple of co-working spaces on the Sunshine Coast where I regularly hire a desk. I always meet new people who are on the same journey as me and it’s so nice to be able to talk about the same struggles. Plus I’ve even got a few clients out of it so I highly recommend hiring a desk at a co-working space at least once a week or fortnight!
GET OUTDOORS A blog post on Mister Weekender wouldn’t be complete if I didn’t tell you to get outdoors. Trust me, it does wonders to kick self-doubt to the curb. I highly recommend going hiking, it’s my go to for when I need to refresh and restart my creative engines. For those of you who don’t like hiking, which I know there are probably a few of you, my advice would be to grab some wine or beer, head down to the beach or your favourite park and watch the sunset with friends.
THE LIFE CHANGING MAGIC OF NOT GIVING A FUCK In an affectionate parody of Marie Kondo's decluttering tough love, editor and now author Sarah Knight recently quit her job and wrote a tongue-in-cheek book The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck, telling the world to literally stop giving a fuck. And I couldn't agree more. Instead of doing more, we need to do less to achieve our goals. I couldn't agree more. So the next time you feel like you start to doubt yourself, stop giving a fuck and go have some fun!